The best revenge, is living your life.

Published on July 22, 2010 in internet and life. 6 Comments

So, I have an internet stalker.  She’s the ex-girlfriend of one of my friends.  We’ve never met.  I wouldn’t call her a troll because she doesn’t try to fuck with my life, but apparently she finds me REALLY interesting, as she’s come across me on several different sites.  She’s probably going to read this.  The most annoying thing though, is she spreads like poison.  She had the gall to copy all of Amanda’s drawings from her art blog, post them to flickr, and claim them as her own.  I should also note, that happened last year.  You would think she’d move on out of pure embarrassment at doing something that a thirteen-year-old girl would do.

Obviously, this makes me annoyed and angry.  I spent a lot of time this morning giving into this anger, I even contacted her husband to let him know what was going on (although I really don’t expect a response, and I realize he probably won’t believe me).  But I was feeling really evil and that didn’t feel like enough.  I mean, I know her name.  I know what city she lives in.  I was really tempted to pay $2 to one of those address sites just so I could mail her the most cheerful fucking postcard I could find.  I could post her facebook, twitter, flickr, and all other accounts right here and publicly shame her.  I could try to get someone to troll her.

But I won’t, for two reasons.

One, I was talking to a friend about this, who has been a cam girl for ten years, who gets trolled hardcore.  She has a few people who literally spend hours of their week making up fake twitters about her, emailing her, telling her she’s a lousy person, etc.  And she manages to live with all of that crap, so I think I can live with one grown woman looking at my pictures online.

Two, and I know this is a trite response, but I have a life.  My life isn’t perfect or ideal, but my life is also not so empty that I need to spend time dwelling on this.   This afternoon, I was out trying to wrangle my garden into submission, and I stopped getting pissed at her and started getting pissed at myself for wasting the entire morning worrying about how to deal with someone who really, is not doing anything TO me.  The only person she’s really affecting is herself.  I mean, i’m sure that she also could be doing other things besides following me around on the internet, and if she would rather do that than live her own life, that’s really not my problem.

Another option would be for me to lock down all of my internet accounts to private so she doesn’t have anything to look at, but you know what?  That’s still letting someone else dictate how I live my life.  I’ve been on the internet since 1995, and so far i’ve gotten by just fine.

Summer lovin’.

Published on July 21, 2010 in life and pictures. 1 Comment

Despite my predictions that I would be totally miserable by now because of the heat, I am still managing to enjoy my summer!

Tofu, kale, and peaches stir fried in teriyaki sauce, with couscous.  I’m not big on leafy greens, but the sweetness of the peaches completely covers up any bitter taste.  Thank you, Farmer’s Market!  It’s too hot to cook brown rice.

Making hula hoops and learning tricks.  I’m clumsy, awkward, and not very good, but i’m having fun!

Taking photos of cats at the local shelter for Pet Finder,  which is just as awesome and rewarding as it is tedious.  It’s hard to get some cats to even look at you, let alone look alert and/or happy!  This is Mouth (her real name is Isabelle, but whatev).  She’s one of my favorites.

Things I’ve Bought That I Love: Summer 2010 Edition!

Published on June 7, 2010 in Uncategorized. 8 Comments

[insert lame excuses for not blogging here]

At this current time, I am still in love with summer.  In a few more weeks, it’ll be too sticky and hot to even look outside during the day, but for now, I am enjoying biking and gardening and even (gasp) going to work and running errands.  So what have I bought that is making summer totally fucking awesome?

My regular bike (which is just Brian’s sisters old bike) is in storage, so I put out the word that I was looking for a bike to use until I got mine back, and that I was willing to do a little tuning up on it.  I braced myself to get offered crap (because really, what can you expect when you ask for something for nothing?), so imagine my surprise when a family friend offered up this sweet thing.  It had been hanging in his garage for ten years, unused!  At first he said it was just a loaner and wouldn’t even sell it, but I guess he changed his mind, possibly because he found out it cost me $130 to get it back on the road (totally worth it).  Green isn’t my favorite color, and it has someone’s name carved all over it, but whatever!  We put a basket on the back and now I can ride it to the grocery store and the health food store and use my vinyl bags and feel extra smug!

I went to St. Louis on a day trip and discovered that the Whole Foods sells Chicago Diner cake!  I’ve eaten at the Chicago Diner twice, but never got dessert (I was full and both times was going somewhere un-cake-carrying-friendly immediately afterwards), so I was super excited!   So excited, I got two pieces of cake and a piece of cheesecake.  All of them were amazingly delicious (but I learned i’m not big on cheesecake), and i’m really glad that St. Louis is so far away so I can’t freebase cake all the time.

These shoes!  My Sketchers slides were literally falling apart, and I needed a new pair of slip on shoes.  Something comfortable and simple that I can get dirty and wear until they also fall apart.  Well, I saw these and squeaked and bought them!  And I normally don’t give a crap about shoes!  They’re by Draven, and these particular shoes don’t seem to be available anymore, but they still have a good selection of vegan shoes!  I wouldn’t garden in them, but they’re fairly comfortable and I can wear them to work, so that’s all that matters.

I also bought these, so now i’m set on shoes for the next two years.

Okay, I bought this bag months ago, but I would be an awful person if I didn’t post the bag that kittee made for me!  I’ve been rocking the same $20 denim purse for five years, and I decided it was finally time to retire it.  I also decided that I wanted a bag big enough to shove my laptop in, so I asked kittee to do a commission for me and she did!  She asked lots of questions, and even told me I could return the bag if I didn’t like it, but I love it!  Kittee has a few pre-made bags in her etsy store, if you want your own.

And finally, some summer jams.  I like to listen to sad bastard music in the winter, really energetic stuff in the spring, but when it gets hot I like things that are still upbeat but a little more mellow.  These both came out in March, but they are excellent for a laid back summer!  The concept of an album where one band covers one other band seems kind of lame, but The Bird and The Bee do it really well.  And really, you can’t do bad with Hall and Oates!  Or maybe you hate the eighties and awesomeness so you’re not really familiar with Hall and Oates, in which case, get acquainted!